My five year old son Cam was kind enough to draw some lovely art all over his bedroom walls last night. He was drawing monsters; full size ones. He even took the time to draw one my feet while I was sleeping. I never woke up! Now that’s talent.
Sometimes when the parental frustration takes over, all you need to do is take a step back to appreciate how funny your child's latest shenanigan really is ;)
The very same day in the line up at Wal-Mart, he realised that the front of the shopping cart could be pushed and lifted (to attach the cart to the other shopping carts when put away). I’m paying for my purchases and he pushes it in, and dives through it.
My innocent flower gets stuck of course. "Mommy, mommy, help me", he screams as he’s pinned between the shopping cart top and bottom. I look down and say in a completely disbelieving tone, “What in the world are you doing Cam”. While other children would stand and wait, my son dives through shopping carts.
A DARK FANTASY, ACTION-ADVENTURE, MAGICAL REALISM THRILL RIDE! You'll be weak in knees swooning and on the edge of your seat cheering as they train for the Immortal Testing. It's like a thousand ways to die with dark comedy and scenes that will make you blush.
Showing posts with label Parenting. Show all posts
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Saturday, October 16, 2010
Not my child
The sheer brilliance of most people is completely undermined by blind trust in their own child who is not yet capable of wiping their own bum. Billy would never, absolutely never hit anyone.
The reality is that your child is three years old. He has absolutely no clue about the rules of life. The rules sometimes are a bit fuzzy to a three year old. When someone frustrates him or annoys him, it’s okay to be mad at them, but he is not allowed to hit them.
Why wouldn’t your child hit another person? Society says don’t do it, but little Billy doesn’t know what society is, does he? It’s the base survival instincts for Billy. Children do not come with guilt or with a conscience we install that in them.
When we are teaching children what is right and what is wrong as parents we say, “No hitting Billy, That boy is your friend. If we love our friends, and treat them with respect we can keep them forever."
In the future when someone annoys or takes a toy from your child and they hit them, your child may feel guilty (or is it fear) because they know if they hit a friend they could lose their friendship.
It's instinct to protect ourselves. When teaching right from wrong to our children we have the opportunity to change our child's responses from survival instinct to appropriate behaviour.
Our goal as a parent is to attempt to teach right from wrong. Our job is to help our children be functioning healthy adults. We teach them to brush their teeth so they have strong and healthy teeth. A nice smile will help them get employment as an adult.
We teach them to be clean, so people like how they smell and want to be close to them. We teach them to be kind to the people in their life they are close to because every friend is a blessing. We teach them about hard work through chores and helping when someone asks them for their help.
Human beings do not come with these traits they are installed by their parents. When someone falls down and is crying I want to know my child is helping them up not standing over them laughing. But he might, it might have been pretty comical the way they fell. He might not have known that they were really hurt; maybe he thought that they were playing or joking. When something goes wrong then you just teach them how to make it right.
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